Family Structure: The Role of Children
Pastor Shedrick Winfield
Ephesians 6:1-3 "Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise;) That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth."
The focal point of a child pleasing the Lord is centered around their obedience to their parents. Parents are mediators between children and God, while children are too young to have a full and mature relationship with God themselves. The parent is the closest thing to God's authority for the child.
Their responsibility in the child's life is to actually build moral character through scripture. Children are born with dominant attitudes of selfishness and their interest are totally self centered, this should not remain their traits. They must be taught to share, to be considerate of others, and not to be disappointed or get angry when they don't get their way.
In (Luke 2:49-52) Jesus Christ, our pattern man lived this principle out in obeying and honoring His earthly parents. He is 12-years-old and senses a responsibility to the law of God but was still subject to his parent's guardianship over His life. Jesus was subject to please God through the parent child covenant, therefore he could not maturely live for God because His will was subject to his parent's. For one to be a mature son of God one's will must be swallowed up in the will of his heavenly father. Jesus' allegiance to God was reflected through His allegiance to His parents at this time.
God has a special plan for children that can only be experienced through submission and obedience to parents. If they submit they will see they are His inheritance, the apple of His eye. They will know God's plan for them is to reflect His moral character in the midst of an immoral world. They will own His love for their life and see it is worth trusting, even when they are on the end of chastisement. They will know the object of it is to bring forth morality. The children that obey and honor their parents have covenant promises released to them by God.